Sibling Rivalry

"Dhoom!" "Dhadoom!" "Dhishum!" "Boom!" "Bang!" Such noises are common from a house filled with children or rather pranksters. "Feathers of a bird when flocked together" situation is difficult to control and from there emerges sibling rivalry.
Right from small things like remote control till part in property, siblings are known for fighting! The little princes and princesses are always looking for an opportunity to fight with each other may the reason be nothing.
Usually rivalry sets in houses with more number of children. The child first born is he star of everyone's eyes and royally brought up, but when more children come, their care has to be taken. Usually the first born finds it difficult to accept that somebody else will share the affection of the family. It is obvious that the new born baby needs to be taken care of, amongst the entire hustle bustle the elder child is neglected and this can not be digested by the child so jealousy creeps inside.
The child usually tries to seek the attention of the adults but if further avoided frustration occurs. Frustration may lead to hostility and desire to cause harm to he siblings. So right from the birth of the small child gets a rival. This rivalry increases day by day and instead of love and affection the small child always gets hatred from the siblings. The elder child bullies, teases and continuously tortures the smaller one. The only attempt is to make the smaller sibling's life miserable.
Parents have to play an important role of bringing the siblings together and learning the art of"live and let live". They must stop paying more attention to a particular child and treat them equally. If an atmosphere of utmost peace and love is set up sibling rivalry may not arise.
In most of the houses, sibling rivalry exists between brothers and sisters. It is a natural phenomenon. If there is a vast age difference between the siblings then the primary aim of sibling rivalry may be just fun. It may also happen that it is in the nature of some people to get happiness by harassing others.
Sometimes sibling rivalry leads to break ups in families and creates distance between the members. It is a very serious situation. Upto a certain extent sibling rivalry is good, it helps the kids learn to fight for their rights, but when the situation goes out of hand it becomes a problem. It usually arises due to the overprotective attitude of the parents towards a child or a gender bias or giving a child more importance than the others. Sometimes it leads to unhealthy competition among the children and becomes the onset of unhealthy rivalry.
Fostering family bonds and increasing family activities where everyone participates is the best way to nullify any sibling rivalry that crops up. "Togetherness deletes the differences". An ideal mind is a devil's workshop so if children are kept busy with one or the other thing then fights amongst them decrease.
If professional help is required it should be used subtly to nip the problem in a bud before it takes a serious turn .After all a stitch in time saves nine.
The mass media should also have constructive talks on the subjects and there should be dramas and soaps enacted to make people aware that the problem exists and it should be delicately treated with caution and experience.
Published by titoo

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